Ways I’m Failing at Adulting


I was inspired by my fellow blogger, Rosie, to write this post, which is all about my failures as I journey through “adulthood.”

Don’t worry though! My next post will be all about how I’m “winning” at adulthood. This is just a little something to get my insecurities out of the way. This is also a post to counter all the #humblebragging I’ve been seeing on my social media lately. I thought I could take a moment to laugh (and cry) at what is often considered “failing.”

Warning: Rant Ahead! Please don’t read if you are easily offended!

  • I Have Not Purchased a House

It seems like every single one of my friends has bought a house, especially if they have a significant other. I’m still in a tiny little apartment, where I live with my husband. We are planning on moving soon, but to a bigger apartment. We are not ready for a house yet.

I am okay with this, however, it’s always hard to see these Facebook and Instagram posts of friends with shiny new keys, no matter how happy I am for them. A little pang of jealousy is healthy now and then. It’s also hard when they call themselves “homeowners.” Aren’t you a homeowner when you’ve paid off your mortgage? Until then, you are a “home purchaser.”

  • I Still Get Scared Making Doctor and Dentist Appointments.

Adults shouldn’t be scared to do this, right? So, why haven’t I gone to the dentist in almost a year? I don’t know. I keep making excuses. I do floss, though!

I have gone to the doctor, but it’s still hard speaking with the snotty nurses on the phone every time I make an appointment. I wish I could find friendlier medical offices close by.

  • I Still go to Disney World/Disneyland on Vacation.

For those who know me (and visit this blog), this doesn’t come as a huge shock. Nevertheless, I’m often told that I should be spending my money on trips to Europe instead. In fact, my husband and I are planning to go to Europe soon, but that doesn’t make my desire to visit Disney any less intense.

The longer I visit Disney without kids, the weirder I feel. When people comment on my vacation choices, it only makes me feel worse.

Listen- going to Disney on vacation is something I love. If you make someone feel bad for something they love? Well, then, you’re not a nice person. (Sorry, I’m super defensive about this).

  • I Am Not a Manager.

I feel as though everyone my age has a fancy title at their jobs, and that these titles often include the word “manager.” I have a far less glamorous title, and I do not yet have a six-figure, work from home, managerial position. Again, this is jealousy speaking- totally normal!

I appreciate the job I have now very much, and I know someday I will make it higher up the work ladder. I know my friends and fellow adults have put in the hard work, and I think it’s great! However, I can’t help but feel like I’m somehow failing as an adult if I don’t have a posh job by now.

  • I Forget to Send Birthday Cards to Nieces/Nephews/Cousins/Coworkers.

I always forget that because I am an adult, I’m the one that needs to send birthday cards packed with cash in the mail to younger relatives, as well as have others at work sign birthday cards for my colleagues. I still look in the mail for my own birthday cards from relatives, and I think they have finally stopped coming.

It is now time to fatten the wallets of the younger generation, in the hopes that their parents don’t forget to send money to my own future kids.

I wish I still got birthday cards with money in them. However, I barely have any aunts/uncles left alive. I sure need the money a lot more now than I did when I was seven.

  • I Don’t Have a Passport.

I know, I need to get on this. There is no excuse. Especially with our tyrannical orange leader in charge, who knows when I may have to leave the country?

  • I Don’t Own a Professional Suit/Evening Gown.

I have some old bridesmaid gowns, and pretty dresses, but nothing to wear to a real formal dinner, or to a job interview (if I needed to, or got invited to anything). I’m not going anywhere fancy anytime soon, but it’s always nice to “level-up” your wardrobe as you reach the wrong side of twenty.

  • I Hate Kale/Pumpkin Spice Lattes

I feel these are staples of an adult woman’s diet. Not for me! Pizza and macaroni and cheese and ice cream all the way. I have the cravings of a 5-year-old.


Anyway, thanks for reading my mini-rant. I’m sure there are other fails that I’m forgetting (for instance, I just remembered that I don’t go to the gym, which adults typically do). The next post will be much more positive, I promise!

Is there anything you feel like you’re failing at? Any advice for how to be a real adult?

Hugs and Fishes,


About Arielle

Former Cast Member and author of Arielle in the Animal Kingdom! You can check out my blog at https://littledismaid.com, or my books on Amazon- I would love to hear from you!

14 thoughts on “Ways I’m Failing at Adulting

  1. Lol! I feel you on some of these things. But I feel like adulting needs to feel right for you in your own way. If you’re living your life, enjoying yourself and making great decisions then I feel like you’re doing it right. Regardless of what other people say.

  2. Arielle, you should definitely not feel guilty for hating pumpkin spice lattes or kale. Especially with the first one, that’s a benefit.

    I’m also defensive about the criticism of vacations to Disney World and Disneyland. I now have kids, but when we didn’t we still took some trips to Disney. Heck, I’d love to go there solo if I could! The trips before we had kids were a blast, but people who don’t have the “Disney gene” don’t get it. Part of it is jealousy, and the rest is just looking for a reason to be negative. I’m more comfortable with it than I used to be, but I still don’t lead with “I do a Disney blog and podcast” when I meet new people. So I can definitely understand that feeling.

    1. Haha, thank you! I don’t get the PSL craze.

      I’m glad you can relate to the feeling of going to Disney a lot. I almost feel embarrassed to add that I wrote two books and run a Disney blog about it, and yet people are always interested when they learn I worked there. I think they’re mystified as to why I still want to go back after working and living there. You’re right, part of it may be envy, and others love to just drag Disney whenever they get the chance. I’m so glad you still visit, and that you also had a great time traveling sans kids!

      Thanks for the comment, I really appreciate it and it makes me feel better!

  3. When you posted your “Warning”, I was expecting to see like f-words all throughout your rant, lol.

    Anyway, I know how you’re feeling. I often feel like I’m failing too: I’m 26 and STILL haven’t graduated from college. I don’t have a job, I still live with my parents, I’m not married, and I also keep wishing for gifts from the relatives with money in them, lol. I still get one or two (mostly from grandparents), but I know the gifts have pretty much stopped coming. And since I don’t work, I can’t afford to buy gifts or things for my family, let alone for myself.

    I understand the anxiety of making appointments via phone. While that doesn’t bother me all that much, there are some situations where I don’t wanna talk on the phone to certain people.

    I don’t think I’ll ever stop going to Disney; the dream is to marry a Disnerd girl so she and I would share the love of going to that place, lol. I do want to go to Europe though as well, but I don’t think Disney will leave my heart.

    I also don’t have any desire to have “manager” or a title in front of my name. I’d much rather do what I want to do and I don’t believe in competing with people just to outrank them or anything like that. You do you, I do me, sort of approach.

    I only have one suit which I wear for like weddings/interviews, etc. I don’t think I need more than one of them anyway.

    Do women really drink kale and pumpkin spice lattes all the time, lol?

    1. Haha no f words yet, trying to keep this “family and coworker friendly.” 😉

      I have plenty of friends in the same boat as you, and I remember at 26 not having a steady job (I think I got my first steady job near the end of 26, actually- until then it was only part time work and internships). I lived at home until I was 23. I’m 28 now, and it’s amazing the difference 2 years can make. You’ll get there. I feel like I still can’t afford to buy gifts for birthdays and holidays, and I practically go broke every year. I feel you. It will get easier for both of us!

      Disnerd girls are the best (speaking as one myself), and even though I didn’t marry a Disnerd boy, he still loves that it makes me happy and understands my desire to visit. I think that’s all that matters ❤️

      I don’t really have a desire to be a “manager” either, but it’s one of those things that I feel is expected of adults.

      And about the kale thing, a lot of my girlfriends do! PSL is also everywhere lol. It could just be me, but I feel like I’m surrounded by well-meaning friends always advising me to eat kale (bleh). One of my many weird insecurities!

      Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts! I always appreciate the thorough responses. The next post will address the feelings of not competing against others and doing what feels right for you. Thank you for reading my rant!

        1. Aw thank you so much!!

          I have heard of it and actually recommended it to my sister lol; never used it myself. If you end up doing the DCP, that’s a really great way to meet Disney people! Two others on my internship actually got married after meeting at Animal Kingdom.

  4. Although I’m not an adult yet, I totally understand where your coming from. My mom still gets afraid to make doctors appointments and always postponed them! Also, I commented on your Pandora post which I really loved but I don’t think it went through!

    1. I got the comment, thank you! I’m not sure why WordPress gives error messages on comments sometimes, but thank you for writing! And ugh, yeah, I feel your mom on the Dr. Appt. thing…. I have total phone anxiety!

  5. I really enjoyed reading this!! Mostly because I feel the same. I love the point you make about being a ‘homeowner’. I definitely feel that some of these things are typically what we see in the ‘social media illusion’ and people trying to portray a perfect life. What’s most important is that you are living a happy life doing what you enjoy and contributing to healthy relationships. I worry alot about the future etc… but you are right a few years can make a huge difference and everything can change so quickly. I need to really just enjoy the present moment.

    Hayley | hayleyxmartin

    1. I’m so glad you enjoyed! And you’re right, a lot of this comes from looking through the social media “Highlight Reel” people show, and I can’t help but hold myself to that standard. As someone with anxiety, I can never stop worrying about the future, but you are correct in that as long as you’re happy, then you can’t be a failure. I need to learn to enjoy the present more often too ☺️ It’s scary how fast things can change, for better or worse. Thank you for reading!

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