Since my last post got such a great and positive response, I’m now writing on ways I consider myself to be “winning” at adulthood. Many of you commented with wonderful advice, the best of which being not to compare yourself to others, and to live your own and happy life on your own terms.
It’s very easy to caught up in the “highlight reel” of a friend’s social media account. We see their “perfect” lives, and it’s only natural to think, well, why haven’t I reached this point yet? While that’s natural and, unfortunately, expected, we should also remind ourselves of our own accomplishments every now and then. We need something to make us smile every time we see a cringe-worthy post that ends with #blessed, or whenever we hear a condescending comment from a peer.
That being said, I don’t think people should ever post about their income, their sex life, or their next move. Just saying.
Here’s hoping my lovely readers can relate to some of the following (and remember, if you’re not there yet, you’re still winning at life):
I Pay All My Bills on Time Every Month
Bills are something that suck the most about being an adult. And yet, they are a necessary evil. I know it’s easy to push off all those bills until they come back to bite you in the ass, but I make the time to pay them all at the beginning of every month.
I feel like having a set day to pay all your necessities is a great way to do it, that way you’ll never be surprised when that envelope shows up in the mail, or when that charge shows up on your account. This includes any monthly subscriptions you have, such as Hulu or Netflix (or, for me, my Disney World annual pass monthly installments). Some of these I have taken out of my account every month automatically, which also helps me make sure I have enough moolah stored in the bank.
I Keep Up with the News
As much anxiety as the news gives me, I like to be aware of what’s going on the world. I like to discuss current events with others, and get into healthy debates.
Nevertheless, I still despise politics, but I feel as though knowing what’s going on is better than being left in the dark. Feel free to give yourself mental breaks from the news every so often, like I do, but don’t remain ignorant forever.
I Read and Nurture My Mind
This may be a bit of a #humblebrag, but I am a huge reader. Reading is like feeding the soul, and nourishing the mind. No matter if it’s fiction, non-fiction, biographies, travel, self-help- I read it all. I always have a book with me wherever I go, and if given a choice, I’d much rather spend the day at home reading than going out.
Reading makes you more intelligent. I am a firm believer in that. Even if all you read are blogs and magazines, you are still learning, and that’s a beautiful thing. Most people I know hate to read, and that makes me sad (both for the future generation, and my aspiring author career).
I Published Two Books
Yeah, I’m extremely proud of this! It’s so nice to see my hard work and experiences bound in print. I get a thrill whenever someone says they read my books. I would love to publish even more books someday!
Though I don’t make a fortune from the book royalties, it’s still super cool to know that my writing holds some form of monetary value, and even some form of joy.
I Write Freelance Articles for Disney Websites
Again, this is something I’m proud of, but I don’t make a ton of money off it. I do it purely for the joy of seeing my articles on some of my favorite Disney websites, like The Dis. I included it in my “winning” category, because it was my dream as a child to turn my hobbies into adult realities- and writing will always be a big dream of mine!
I’m Starting to Care Less What Others Think
Key word- “starting” to. As I made clear in my last post, I feed off others’ emotions way too much. I am always imagining that people are talking about me, and that friends are hanging out without me. I’m afraid of becoming too boring, or too needy, or too passive, or too aggressive. I must keep reminding myself that I can’t please everyone, and that’s okay. Those who love me, and are true friends, will stick around.
I Clean My Apartment Once a Week
Another sucky thing about adulthood, but hey, at least I don’t live in a pigsty! Once a week I do the laundry, wash the sheets, run the dishwasher, and scrub down the bathroom and kitchen. I take out the trash during the week, and straighten knickknacks here and there. I clean up after my dog and give him monthly baths.
I wish I could hire a maid to clean for me, but I grit my teeth and get the job done. I may not whistle while I work, but it comes with the territory of being an adult.
I have a Steady Income from a Steady Job
Whilst I can’t take naps during the work day like others do, and while I don’t have anyone reporting to me, I am proud of the job I have. I work very hard, to the point where I often get anxiety over the littlest of details. I don’t work directly in the field I went to school for, but I’m close, and hopefully one day soon I’ll get even closer.
A great thing about a steady job is, of course, the bi-weekly paychecks rolling in, as well as the insurance. Insurance is expensive, yes, and unfortunately I don’t have the money to go out to eat multiple times a week or shop often at Sephora/Michael Kors/Lush/Apple, etc. I budget for what I can, and I work hard so that I can play hard at Disney World.
I Pretty Much Have the Best Husband in the World
I was almost afraid to write this one, because marriage is definitely NOT a requirement to being an adult. Don’t ever think that because you aren’t married, you aren’t winning. You don’t need a significant other to be happy!
I am happy that I chose a perfect partner to share my life with. That’s all I want to say. I count my lucky stars every day that I found my soulmate. This bullet point makes up for ALL the other “failures” in my previous post.
Thank you all for reading, and please keep the insightful comments coming! What do you think are the ingredients for being a successful adult? I want to hear your thoughts!
Hugs and Fishes,